How to Get Attention Without Attention-seeking


One of the most obvious but in practice very
hardest things to ask a partner, even one we name in our will and whose life is entirely
entwined with ours, is: ‘Do you still love me?’ There would be so many reasons why they might not do so anymore: we might have driven them to the limit with our admittedly at points really rather challenging behavior. We’re not getting any younger. There are
a lot of other people – especially at work and in the invisible parts of their life – who
would have great things to offer them. It’s hard to trust anyone, given what can happen.
Furthermore, the signs aren’t necessarily very good at the moment. They spend a lot
of time on their phones. They’re a bit distracted. Their thoughts seem elsewhere. We powerfully long for reassurance and at the same time what we would need to get this reassurance
presents terrors of all its own. It would mean revealing the extent of our vulnerability
and of the scale of their power to hurt us. It would mean having to admit how much of
our life is in their hands and how deeply we depend on their good opinion of us for
our psychological survival. Sometimes the cost can feel just too high – especially
if we grew up in families where we got little reassurance that another person would understand
our needs. It seems better not to ask too directly. At the same time, their disengaged
manner is unbearable as well. In the circumstances, we may find ourselves carrying out one of
the strangest manoeuvres witnessed in relationships. We may seek to get their attention accompanied
by their anger as opposed to their attention accompanied by their love. We choose to pay
the lower price of seeking signs that they remember we exist as an alternative to the
far more arduous, rejection-risky task of securing proof that they still love us.
©Flickr/Ashley Webb So we wait until they are tired and fed up
and launch a volley of accusations: you never do much around the house, your job doesn’t
pay enough, you’ve become very dull. Or, at dinner with friends, we loudly tell a story
about something that happened during their parent’s messy divorce. What we are really
trying to say is: I love you so much. I rely on you to give sense to my life. But instead
we have managed to work them up into a rage and ensured they will say brutal things to
us. Of course, their mind is fully trained on us. But – with a horrible irony – it’s
far from the kind of attention we were seeking. We who crave their kindness, their enthusiasm,
their warmth, their compassion, their tenderness and their constructive intelligence to engage
with our needs are on the receiving end of their (very understandable) frustration, disappointment,
wounded pride and self-protective anger. We should have the courage of our longings. We
should build relationships where it is natural, and therefore not too frightening, to seek
and receive on a regular basis basic reassurance that we are wanted. We should make friends
with our own extreme dependence and not see it as a sign of either shame or evil. Furthermore,
when we next find ourselves on the receiving end of some utterly unfair accusations or
aggression from our partner, we should bear in mind that they have probably not turned
monstrous: they are simply trying to secure a reminder that we care for them in the only
way they know how, by driving us mad. Our Relationships Reboot Cards inspire conversations that can help to rekindle love between you and your partner.

100 thoughts on “How to Get Attention Without Attention-seeking

  • May 15, 2019 at 1:05 pm
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    Do you find yourself doing any of the things pointed out in this film? Let us know in the comments below and to join your fellow School of Life audience members, be sure to download our new free app: https://bit.ly/2YpP1Te

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  • May 30, 2019 at 5:05 pm
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    Why homosexual couples only in the video?

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  • May 30, 2019 at 6:53 pm
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    The video aesthetics are just awesome

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  • May 30, 2019 at 10:28 pm
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    If ready and able, we can overcome the dependance itself, which is the greater goal for human consciousness. We must challenge the entire ego and our attachment to any external thing, whether our careers, titles, material possessions, or relationships. It is crucial to continually regulate our emotional impulses and expectations of the world to meet not only our partners but our lives (!) as consciously as possible. The romantic relationship is a common outsourcing for the inner chaos TSOL often describes in the average adult.

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  • May 31, 2019 at 5:43 am
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    ok, 1) it’s OK TO BE insecure and vulnerable. if your partner can’t deal with it then they’re not worth your heart
    2) if your partner is not satisfied with your contribution it doesn’t mean that they need attention, that either mean you must be more responsible or your partner need to get their shit together.

    just for the record: relationships MUST be based on trust & partnership. anyone who can’t sit with you and figure things out is just playin around & NOTHING can prove love other than care & affection so f*ck all this “seek attention” bullshit.

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  • May 31, 2019 at 5:46 am
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    i love the point of the video that says we must be brave enough to say it without fear about our insecurities but we must never see any kind of aggression as a “way of showing love” that’s just absurd, love won’t ever be a reason to hurt on purpose !

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  • May 31, 2019 at 3:45 pm
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    yep😶

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  • June 1, 2019 at 6:41 am
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    I would be very interested in a video how to react when you're in a loving relationship but meeting somebody you're interested in. not sexually but emotionally and feeling guilty for looking for other connections beside the existing relationship.

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  • June 1, 2019 at 12:52 pm
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    Every single thing about this video was exactly what i am feeling

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  • June 2, 2019 at 1:09 am
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    Ask if the r/s is still desired. Start there. Don't bark at ur beloved, use nonviolent communication (nvt) so that even if ur fear says no too risky, you two speak what is true in your needs satchel, & if you've been excusing neglect, & you've overlooked arrogance , i.e., you've not been guardian of your soul's health, unspoken your mental-emotional state is to allow ur beloved to be proxy guardian of ur soul, the Self that is a separate person inhabiting a place of existence on earth & determining no matter what is said that you exist, you have identity that is you, that you are not an object that is of worth or is not bc your beloved decides as your soul's guardian to trash talk it & kick it to the curb as useless. Self-care is vital, it is self-guardianship. If you do not stand for your soul's existence & await validation from ur beloved, you are at the mercy of another person as to who you are now & the options avl for you to enjoy living based on what you need & want. Masochism is not far from refusing to stand as guardian of ur soul, which sets the boundaries for anyone you associate with at where they stop & where you begin, where you say, I will not be controlled, I will not be drawn into romantic manipulations that ask me to override my will for myself. I will compromise between us, but I will not become all about ur wants, ur needs, be ur cheerleader & enjoy ur attn when I am attending to yoy but suffer neglect of you in support of my interests–I AM NOT UR MOTHER TO MILK & MANIPULATE & EVENTUALLY TO BE DISRESPECTED & DISDAINED BC I loved you w/o protecting my Being as a separate Self. I warn that if arrogance arises aft you've allowed yourself to identify as his or her cherished bc you cheer yet receive no respect of social interactions you suggest & have become relatively an unknown to ur beloved & ur anger will be pressurized as "hurt" & being agreeable you might w/d to not offend bc you've learned the face that is not pleased & you watcj to not elicit it with ur words. I tell you in warning to perhaps spare u the sense that your annihilation is wanted by ur beloved & if he or she is passive, it will be in signs that you know, this person needs a mirror of ego & when you've tired of it & are depressed appearing (called dowdy looking by ur beloved even if u are maintaining ur physical body & dress bc excuses are needed for self-justification of the betrayal that has begun, the affair of ur beloved with a partner eliciting lust & excitement & fun bc aren't secrets & taking risks a dopamine high, a high w which u cannot compete. He or she might feel he/she is well managing two "parallel lives", but truth is rare to bespoken by the betrayer, the truth is you are not connected in life, your beloved is dating, is single, & as to any thot that adding sex to the best friends duo was dishonest to you, "I never thought about you" is the spoken reality bc you see, he/she is single, YOU DON'T EXIST. And truly, bc you forsook your soul's guardianship, you never existed, you were unheard, unheeded, avoided, truly an object to fulfill needs & wants & when you stopped in ur time of seeing that asking for more, a mutual consent of caring, when you became unhappy, you were classified as mood-disordered & you wanted to say, No, I am in a disorderly marriage bc I quit rah-rah'ing, the distance between us that you controlled near or far, when near was still only your attention for satisfying your sense of self as a "better than" & as a nice guy to others, esp to her or him. Dearest, as forsaker of Self, you are allowing an intimate to say whether you exist. God forbid. "School of Life" has some videos speaking of how to stand for yourself. A phrase I like when presented w a disagreeable plan & asked to agree (in expectation that you'll say 'yes' to please & get along, say, "That won't work for me". It a stop, a break in automaticity if usually u acquiesce. Very important to keep to the front of ur mind is that every decision made by a partner who has a best friend with benefits secretly is EVERY decision is made based on your partner's wants. If u are told a decision that looks beneficial to you, looks as if it was made w u in mind, I will hazard seeming harsh to say, suspect that it wasn't. Your mind is being controlled & your heart twisted & you can't know the backstory behind what you hear bc the Other is unknown. Lunches & sex after before the little tyke needs pick up from school? Not an activity you'll likely discover. Sacred sex? Safe sex? The brain high on risky behavior is tantamount to a mind on meth. The risk is addictive. Now you might see how ur partner could say, "You never came to mind." The dopamine, the ego mirroring, the partner who would mock other people w him/her. "He/she made me laugh." Laughter at the mocking, people objects. First, don't set yourself up to be controlled. If u r needy for attn, assess first if u are caretaking your soul, are u loving ur soul as u would in delighting in a child. You are uniquely you, & we all uniquely are mixed with our difficulties & with our finer aspects. But no one is 100% agreeable to anyone & certainly not everyone. A book by Patricia Harris helps in seeing how you can be encroached upon. And God help you if you are betrayed, EMDR therapy is tremendous as a triggerdefuse. And the rage that comes? I figure it arises as an expression of the soul being neglected. If raging, check in with ur soul. The Samsung J7, an old phone, has been remarkably resilient to throwing throwing when stressfully frustrated & the old stuff rises to bite though we've reconciled & are two individuals who love sincerely ourselves & each other. Have a plan to call for help if the impulsive rxn to pain piercing you is suicide. Have u heard how some preteens as their bones grow have bone pain. It's a tough period of time I imagine. I wouldn't dare give you a platitude. I just say have a physical safe release for ur anger & tears in pain. Avoid triggers. Be gentle to you. It's was a revelation to me to see I pushed myself to do more tasks following an EMDR session & experienced rage & understood, I needed to do an easy something, walk the dog, etc., not push-push. You become more self-aware. I've written all of this bc I hope if ur personality is avoidant of conflict w agreeableness as ur method that you'll start w perhaps, "That won't work for me," & also, if ur married, put aside a nest egg for escape if ur ability as a wage-earner changes & you are or could become dependent. Feeling trapped can lead to hopelessness & impulsively to suicide.

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  • June 2, 2019 at 9:55 am
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    I just came to say people who clicked on this video with this title should straight up kill themselves

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  • June 2, 2019 at 4:16 pm
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    Question: Are the relationship tenets that you're speaking only refer to homosexual/lesbian couples? I have to ask, because the models that have FACETIME are obviously lesbian… I'm heterosexual… Question: Wouldn't you consider that a hetero-male would be SLIGHTLY offended that no heterosexual model was ever depicted, even though the facts presented in your video was somewhat "universal"? Just thought I'd put that out there…

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  • June 2, 2019 at 5:54 pm
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    Fireworks

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  • June 3, 2019 at 11:05 am
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    Definitely been like this. Personally, I just realized I have to validate myself and not seek it externally. I also make it a point to openly communicate if I feel neglected. Saying something like "Hey, something has been on my mind for a while, can we talk?" Follow that up with a conversation that comes from love and joy has worked wonders for me.

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  • June 3, 2019 at 1:13 pm
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    So how do you get attention without attention seeking? You never told us!

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  • June 3, 2019 at 3:54 pm
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    Aleysha curry has subscribed

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  • June 3, 2019 at 5:40 pm
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    Someone send this video to Jussie Smollett

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  • June 4, 2019 at 7:12 am
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    cool video!!!

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  • June 4, 2019 at 12:54 pm
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    #MGTOW

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  • June 5, 2019 at 9:00 pm
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    Pretty sure this is why my ex started acting like such a c***. Not sure if I should feel smug and validated or guilty and apologetic lol

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  • June 7, 2019 at 6:51 am
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    What's up with the lesbians ? Where is hetero couples?

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  • June 7, 2019 at 8:47 am
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    You only fall in love with a version of yourself. You don't love another; you love the favorable reflection of yourself that another provides. Others are mirrors on which we project the real time narratives of our filtered identities.

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  • June 8, 2019 at 8:25 pm
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    Is there something wrong in showing heterosexual couples? Does offends somebody?

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  • June 9, 2019 at 6:00 pm
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    This video is one of the most insightful, helpful, nessesary lessons anyone could ever hope to learn ~ thank you so much

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  • June 9, 2019 at 10:37 pm
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    WAIT A MINUTE! HOLD-UP! YOU MEAN TO TELL ME THAT THIS LGBTQ RAINBOW BULLSHIT HAS MADE IT THIS FAR 🤯!? YOU START THIS SHIT WITH 2 WOMEN IN THE BED TOGETHER! GOOD BYE! 🌈😱🤷🏽‍♂️🖕🏽👎🏽

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  • June 10, 2019 at 1:11 am
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    Relationships are not worth the trouble. Goddamn, why do people that already know that life is difficult; make it worse by allowing another person intertwine their life into yours? That’s like asking for a whole new set of problems in the shape of a human.

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  • June 10, 2019 at 8:06 am
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    WINNERS show off, as Losers trash & try to teardown those
    who are showing.
    WINNERS include…Apple, Microsoft, Tesla and, so many more.
    We wouldn't have Leaders & World Leaders in the World or
    even in Innovation, if many didn't show off.
    So many just sit back in life & just watch those who
    continue to lead the show.

    WINNERS toot their/our own horn…for even being Recognized serves it's
    Purpose…Coming up 😉
    Show up in life.

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  • June 10, 2019 at 9:26 pm
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    Riiiight, so asking if they still love us is not seeking attention, okay theeeeeen.

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  • June 11, 2019 at 3:50 am
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    What a useless video, and a boring narration too

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  • June 11, 2019 at 8:32 pm
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    The title of this channel sounds enticing, yet the posts just describe the situation. The language is smart, the speaker is good. The title of the channel made me watch many posts. I do miss clear instructions on how to get around / over the situation, like
    Step 1—> expected outcome 1
    Step 2 —> expected outcome 2 and so on.
    This doesn't relate to the post I'm writing the comment for alone but for all of them.
    I cannot make use of the philosophical story telling. Too bad.

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  • June 11, 2019 at 10:20 pm
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    Imma save my love and attention for myself. This partner business is for the birds! Or ya know, other species that wish to reproduce.

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  • June 12, 2019 at 11:58 pm
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    Splendid analysis- I felt this

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  • June 13, 2019 at 11:35 am
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    The question is why the school of life when it comes to relationships and love videos you guys rarely put a man and women relationship as an example

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  • June 13, 2019 at 10:07 pm
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    You have a beautiful presentation, BUT you keep uploading click bait videos. It happened to me before. I watch the video in order to get the answer that you have as a title and you disappoint me. You are simply describing situations that are truth. Not giving actual answers to the title. Unsubscribe, sorry 😐

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  • June 14, 2019 at 5:42 am
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    So the question in the title has not really been answered here? The video just claims you should be in a relationship where you can seek attention. Pointless really.

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  • June 15, 2019 at 1:17 am
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    Thank you ! That helped !

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  • June 15, 2019 at 7:58 pm
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    School of Life, are you okay? This all seems specific.

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  • June 15, 2019 at 8:41 pm
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    The problem here is the person seeking attention doesn't understand what or why they are doing it and even if they watch this video they won't understand how it relates to them.

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  • June 16, 2019 at 10:17 pm
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    At what point do you fulfill what I came here for

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  • June 16, 2019 at 10:20 pm
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    Clickbait Bologne!!

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  • June 17, 2019 at 1:56 pm
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    Post modern complete doodoo kwatsch.

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  • June 17, 2019 at 4:01 pm
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    put the lesbians in the video and no one bats an eye
    put gay's in there and everyone loses their minds…
    funny.

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  • June 20, 2019 at 6:51 pm
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    I don’t know any good way how to get people’s attention except the bad ones coz most young people like to play games in the relationship..

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  • June 21, 2019 at 6:19 am
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    Here's the straight dope: If someone tells you “I don't love you anymore” it's because they never did to begin with. It's not possible to “unlove” someone. Infatuation and love are two different things. Ego has an endless list of “reasons” to leave. Love only requires one to stay.

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  • June 23, 2019 at 11:50 pm
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    El juego que tienes perdido: el de la muerte,.. 1 puede sobrevivir, 2 no,..

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  • June 24, 2019 at 3:07 am
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    I've done the slow but calm step of telling my partner, and he labelled me as "demanding attention" which is tiring for him. I'm just tired of trying

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  • June 24, 2019 at 6:09 pm
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    Why most of the images you showed in this video are of approximately lesbians in relationships 🤔

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  • June 30, 2019 at 5:35 am
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    Its not all about attention seeking we just entertaining others because happiness of the others it is a big smile for me too. Yeah sometimes we hurt some people.

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  • June 30, 2019 at 4:02 pm
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    Not all your videos I agree and I appreciate your content. Remember that

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  • July 1, 2019 at 5:47 pm
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    Im here for educational purposes, not to learn how to get attention.

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  • July 2, 2019 at 8:00 pm
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    what about in cases where someone has Borderline dx or sx? Dependency might not be something to celebrate, no?

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  • July 3, 2019 at 2:12 pm
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    bua..!
    please don't become one of those channels with only clic bait titles…

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  • July 6, 2019 at 11:31 am
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    https://youtu.be/wLuK-UGZzD8

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  • July 8, 2019 at 3:23 am
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    Long live singles don't need to get ignored 😁

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  • July 8, 2019 at 5:03 pm
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    I'm confused. You seem to have gone out of your way to indicate an LGBT couple so is this for the general population or is this focusing on LGBT? Please don't be PC when it comes to education.

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  • July 10, 2019 at 2:19 am
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    Our phones spy on us

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  • July 11, 2019 at 12:59 am
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    Subtitle Indonesia please

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  • July 16, 2019 at 7:19 pm
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    cringes in BPD

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  • July 17, 2019 at 12:42 pm
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    Wait what am I supposed to do exactly?

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  • July 20, 2019 at 7:09 pm
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    Watching the 2nd videos of this channel, I can truthfully say it's full of embellished crappy words. The title their videos with HOW but there are no answer….a bunch of queued words

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  • July 25, 2019 at 3:01 pm
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    This is great but should i send this video to the guy i am dating with since a month ago, i think that have avoidant attachment? :') idk

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  • July 25, 2019 at 5:39 pm
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    They should call this channel, how to confuse people by stating the obvious right in the tittles

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  • July 25, 2019 at 6:34 pm
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    2:34 woman abuse

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  • July 25, 2019 at 7:05 pm
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    Es para mi por mi ubicación que el título sale en español? Is it for my location that the video title is in spanish?? Can anyone do that?

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  • July 28, 2019 at 1:13 am
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    When my autistic spectrum 4yr old started misbehaving or throwing things at me to get my attn coz he couldn't speak properly yet, i figured out why he did it, then told him that if he wanted mummy's attn, all he had to do was come up and hug me & if he could, say "i love you mummy", and i would make sure that i stopped what i was doing, turn to him & hug him, finish what i was doing and i would play with him for a while.
    It worked like magic.
    Then i began to apply this principle to every aspect of dealing with every person that i met, and the world began to open up in ways that i've never seen before.
    It is all you need… give first as both an example and a peace offering, and express that you need this back, and it sits the world right on it's little arse ;D

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  • July 29, 2019 at 6:52 pm
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    I really wish to translate all of your videos to Arabic .. so much knowledge and information that can be shared

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  • July 30, 2019 at 2:50 pm
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    بوم

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  • August 1, 2019 at 3:09 am
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    This video is terrible and promotes codependency .. How about self respect?

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  • August 3, 2019 at 12:32 am
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    you guys rock

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  • August 4, 2019 at 10:08 am
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    Line n curve; induction n deduction; add n subtract these are our parameters of our life!

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  • August 6, 2019 at 7:07 pm
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    I find it easy.

    You just do your own business without making contact with other people.

    You will find that other people will have their attention to you.

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  • August 7, 2019 at 3:26 am
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    It build the plot but then no tips to improve that. Anyone can say anything but the reason I watched to learn which was missing.

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  • August 7, 2019 at 11:08 am
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    Why they only show photos of lesbian partners!

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  • August 8, 2019 at 8:39 pm
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    Tips2pickup

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  • August 10, 2019 at 2:19 pm
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    Huh

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  • August 12, 2019 at 4:25 am
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    So… this is the science behind shit testing?

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  • August 12, 2019 at 4:47 am
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    Tbh, I don't understand what is in this video. I read the title and find very vague answer in the video.

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  • August 21, 2019 at 3:23 pm
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    I really love this channel omg

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  • August 23, 2019 at 4:47 am
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    I thought the best to attract a shark was to drop blood in the sea

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  • August 23, 2019 at 2:41 pm
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    Always follow your gut instincts, intuition

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  • August 24, 2019 at 10:18 pm
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    misguiding title.

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  • August 25, 2019 at 6:26 pm
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    "how to get attention without attention-seeking"
    step one: dont watch videos titled "how to get attention…"

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  • August 28, 2019 at 1:52 am
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    I have very mixed feelings about this video. Most of it is spot on, but are you actually encouraging people to be extremely dependent on others or did I interpret it wrong? There's nothing healthy about extreme dependence on reassurance by others, whether they're your loved ones or not. Of course that if there are no signs from the people you love that they love you back, it's only fair to ask for that reassurance and for why those signs have been missing if the love is still there, but often insecure people who are accostumed to being actively reassured all the time and consequently become dependent on others for validation of their own sense of self-worth will go down a spiral of insecurity, paranoia, fear and distrust as soon as the people they're dependent on appear to be less than enthusiastic and passionate, and instead of considering there are many other factors that can influence that, they tend to make it all about them.

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  • August 28, 2019 at 9:09 pm
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    Hun I am a Leo I am basically made for attention seekingg

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  • August 29, 2019 at 12:19 pm
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    This video relates so very much to my life. Of course, I can see myself in both characters of the film, the attention-seeker and the one at the receiving end; but it really has enlightened me, as it has reminded me of the reasons behind my partner's behaviour. Thanks, School of Life!

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  • August 30, 2019 at 10:14 am
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    Why loving is so hard??

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  • September 1, 2019 at 12:58 am
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    Why does attention seeking behavior in general annoy people? I can't seem to get a straight answer from anyone.

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  • September 1, 2019 at 11:33 am
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    Just be humble, that’s it.

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  • September 3, 2019 at 1:17 pm
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    This is a stupid video honestly this more about the fear of love then attraction but it's ok tho🤣

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  • September 4, 2019 at 7:38 pm
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    gay

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  • September 5, 2019 at 6:37 pm
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    Why have you shown so many examples of Lesbianism [apparently] in visuals? Is the "School of Life" head by a Lesbian actually?

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  • September 6, 2019 at 1:38 am
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    It's easy to get attention

    Just tell a lie that sounds real

    Also, TMR is my birthday

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  • September 10, 2019 at 1:05 pm
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    What's the difference between getting attention and being codependent?

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  • September 20, 2019 at 4:11 pm
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    Hi, thank you for this video. But you never mentioned what could be the solution for a couple in this kind of relationship ? Or maybe what's the solution for the attention seeking person , what do they need to do in order for them to not seek attention? Thanks.

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  • September 20, 2019 at 10:16 pm
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    Allain de Bottom are you okay? jk

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  • September 21, 2019 at 8:46 pm
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    I'm in a divorce process with my wofe for the reasons mentioned in this video, I think…

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  • September 23, 2019 at 10:02 pm
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    Currently being ignored, glad I watched this so I didn't fall into the attention seeking trap. Wait!! Watch is the solution??

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  • September 28, 2019 at 1:25 pm
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    this is something i've been wanting to tackle in my art but find so hard to put into words! thank u

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  • October 7, 2019 at 5:14 am
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    morale of the story….stay single.

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  • November 4, 2019 at 4:35 am
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    This wasn’t exactly the advice that the thumbnail promised.

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