The Sex-Starved Relationship


Being in a relationship where it doesn’t feel like there’s enough sex sounds like a trivial and somewhat comedic luxury problem As though someone were complaining there wasn’t enough tennis or yoga between a couple. But an absence of sex isn’t trivial in the least. It’s a humblingly serious problem and might even be what dooms the relationship itself. One statistic stands out: in an average year, in the OECD countries, 70% of those who initiate a divorce cited a lack of sex as the first or second reason for parting. If there’s one generalization we can make about couples, it’s that a lack of sex, by which we mean something like less than four times a month, is an alarm bell we should listen to. Why is sex such a key part of keeping two people close? Because in sex, two people accept each other in the most profound of ways. The apparently dirty and shameful sides of us, the way weird fantasies and the unusual longings, are legitimated through sex. Someone else witnesses and accepts us as bodily and psychological beings. Sex symbolises an end to loneliness and a reaffirmation of trust. Not daring or wanting to have sex with a partner is tantamount to admitting that one can’t be oneself in their presence. A lack of sex is bad enough, but far worse is the way in which the reciprocated longing for sex tends to manifest itself. Typically, a person who wants it doesn’t ask very clearly, maybe merely sliding a hand over in a timid, half-hearted search for reciprocation. They don’t complain calmly, don’t deliver an eloquent self-confidence speech about how difficult they’re finding it, and don’t inquire sympathetically as to what might be going on in their partner. Far too often, they tend to quickly move on to symptomatic behavior, where in their disappointment and sense of humiliation, are acted out, rather than discussed. They bang dishes, they get mean, a whole raft of conflicts then develops that has ostensibly nothing to do with sex, and yet is caused by its absence. One starts squabbling over the in-laws in the state of the kitchen. The one who’s been let down sexually behaves so badly, they start to seem like a monster, further reducing the chances of sex ever taking place. Eventually, the sex-starved party may simply go off and have an affair, not because they don’t love their partner, but because showing their desire has become so fraught with rejection that they’re out for a bit of revenge. The lack of sex discussion is so hard to have because quite simply, it feels so shameful to be unwanted sexually. It plays into every worst fear about unacceptability. It’s bad enough when it happens on a date. It’s even sadder to have to admit that one’s being rejected by one’s partner inside the apparent safety and commitment of a long term relationship. Maybe there’s something wrong with them, but far more likely, there’s something revolting about us. The key to a process of reconciliation is to rein in one’s wilder feelings of rejection and self-disgust in order to be able to consider why the other party might have gone off sex. Here’s a key fact: everyone wants sex in principle. When it isn’t wanted, it’s because the condition for sex is not being met, and then, not communicated. Privately, the sex-rejecting party has a problem they’re not sharing. They might in secret be thinking, “I might have sex, if only you listened more to my problems with my family,” or, “If you gave me more time to do my work,” or, “If you weren’t so mean to me around domestic chores.” There might be kinkier reasons: “I’d have more sex if you allow me to play out certain fantasies,” “If you were more broad minded about role playing,” “If you were more into kissing, or wanted it rough, or could be more submissive.” The person being denied sex hasn’t usually had any chance to hear these reasons in plain, unaccusing, gentle terms. Or maybe they’ve heard them, but without a sober awareness of what’s really at stake here. There’s been no proper communication. Therefore, a classic recommendation, deliberately artificial, is that the two parties, aware that their entire relationship properly depends on getting this right, should write each other a letter titled simply, “What I want from sex.” It’s a chance to be deeply honest about your true sexual identity; it’s then incumbent on both parties to take the other’s words seriously and in good faith. Two people are always going to be a bit sexually incompatible, but we shouldn’t get so scared and angry at this that we create a secondary barrier of hurt, punishment, and shame. We should take the first steps to finding a way in which what you want and they want can, in a modest way, be harmonized, and the sarcasm and banging dishes can stop. Every time such a conversation about sex happens in the quiet of the night, the angels of relationships hover over the bedroom and sound their silent trumpets in celebration, because another couple have just critically improved their chances of lasting a little longer together. If you like our films, take a look at our shop: theschooloflife.com/shop. You’ll find lots of thoughtful books, games, stationery, and more.

100 thoughts on “The Sex-Starved Relationship

  • August 10, 2019 at 6:17 pm
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    Why most commenting are women
    Its a men problèm normaly

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  • August 11, 2019 at 2:36 am
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    I have a whole new view of sex now☺️ it more positive now. Thank you

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  • August 12, 2019 at 7:02 am
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    Is it wrong to be turned off because my boyfriend is so fucking skinny that he looks anorexic and he just cannot gain weight? Plus he is scrawny as Fuck. I feel like I am fucking a corpse at times so I just don't have the desire

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  • August 12, 2019 at 7:02 am
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    I also feel drained and like shit after sex. My sleeping patterns are disrupted. The affects fade in a day or two. When I dont have sex I feel great

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  • August 12, 2019 at 5:00 pm
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    Ya know what guys? y'all lack of love, it's always the lust, you don't need to have sex everyday with yer partner to let the person know that you love her/him , love comes from the mind and heart not the body that's why y'all never last a relationship how pathetic.. Although I've never been in a relationship call me a hypocrite or whatever i accept it but that's what i think

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  • August 13, 2019 at 7:27 am
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    Fart this by far one of the most brilliant vids I have ever listened too. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 so spot on and liberating.

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  • August 14, 2019 at 3:35 am
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    They aren't having sex because…well, visually, there is alot of wtf going on in this animation.

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  • August 14, 2019 at 3:27 pm
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    I used to like sex now it just weirds me out and makes me feel weird…. i’m 23…. wtf….

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  • August 16, 2019 at 4:25 am
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    Oh well I can deal with it.. there’s always pain… oh well I can go without it forever

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  • August 16, 2019 at 12:07 pm
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    I have never EVER uttered the words: "Not tonight! I am too tired!" or "I have a headache!" And I am a woman! 🤔 I would have sex every night if I could! I am also extremely adventurous and always willing to try something new! But I am yet to meet a man who's compatible with my "horniness" 😭😭😭 And I am 45!

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  • August 16, 2019 at 12:14 pm
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    World be a much better place if people had more sex!

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  • August 18, 2019 at 2:09 am
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    Not in a relationship for nearly half a decade and I don't know why this keeps showing up on my feed til I hit it. YouTube, I hope you are happy now.

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  • August 18, 2019 at 3:24 am
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    sorryociffer
    Thanks for your opinion. I understand the logic behind it but there is no way she is cheating ( that’s what all husbands think — yeah I know). I actually wish that were the case because then I could divorce her. Unfortunately she wouldn’t do it for that very reason on top of some others.

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  • August 18, 2019 at 6:32 am
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    The animation is fabulously creative

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  • August 19, 2019 at 4:14 am
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    I wonder what goes through a woman’s mind when her and her man have sex daily for months then all of a sudden he loses interest. Do they ever question why or do they just assume he must be cheating?

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  • August 19, 2019 at 9:59 pm
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    I came across the video on accident but its My Current situation . I guess nothing just happen is Real ?

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  • August 19, 2019 at 10:03 pm
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    Twice In the month of for me having sex in July.. This would not be issue I guess if I was Cheater But Good Guys finish last…. SMH

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  • August 20, 2019 at 2:34 pm
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    Such a depressing last phrase

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  • August 20, 2019 at 11:18 pm
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    I have zero sex since the baby came. It is over a year. I also lost my testosterone. I don't know why I lack the desire. When I watch porn I barely get stiff. I don't know why this is

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  • August 22, 2019 at 11:55 am
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    I would bet my life savings that it is men who think they are not getting enough sex. Maybe it is because women do all the unpaid work in relationships. Sex should not be the most important thing. That is so shallow.

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  • August 22, 2019 at 12:02 pm
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    My ex husband was abusive. He was a sadist. He would not hug or cuddle or hold hands. He only wanted to do violent sex acts and he told me I didn't love him if I didn't want to do what he wanted. He strangled me and did other violent things and I let him. You should talk about respect in this video, and not just what people "want".

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  • August 24, 2019 at 7:31 am
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    https://www.vamatoday.in/love-life/how-important-is-kissing-to-a-relationship/

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  • August 24, 2019 at 4:10 pm
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    Just replace them 👍😊

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  • August 26, 2019 at 4:38 am
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    [email protected]! Narcissists!!! If they were unsure about their sexual preferences, they shouldn’t have married!!!😤😞😭

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  • August 26, 2019 at 11:27 pm
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    For all we know the powers that be contribute to this lack by working us to death, food that is GMO, chemicals and unreliable medication, lack of understanding and solutions when women go through the change, and blue pills that make old men horny.

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  • August 29, 2019 at 7:22 pm
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    I know… but i do not like sex not any more it makes me vomitate… i am grateful for my loliness… and i think that in future many people will loose rinnegheranno il sesso so i feel! Good life!

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  • August 30, 2019 at 6:08 am
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    The rejector knows exactly what the rejected is looking for with the hand across the sheets thing. They really have to explain it to them on top of being rejected?

    It's all on the reject? even if say, the reason the rejector isn't interested is because of some particular type of sex they are missing.

    The rejector has more of a responsibility to explain, or request things than the bewildered, dejected, unconfident reject.

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  • August 30, 2019 at 9:10 pm
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    Terrible animation 😒😒

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  • August 31, 2019 at 8:13 am
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    I've told her and I keep getting the same answer. Not to be an ass but women always wanna blame the guy when simple shit like this can keep the relationship alive. Of course I'm going to lose attraction to you if I'm not sleeping with you

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  • August 31, 2019 at 2:35 pm
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    I hate sex so I guess I will never be happy in a relationship.

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  • August 31, 2019 at 4:59 pm
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    I've been asking my bf for 2 years.. He says to wait. Like.. I mean.. I just feel so helpless and sad about that.

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  • September 1, 2019 at 10:36 am
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    I believe that a great sex life….2 people who are legitimately hot for each other …is the foundation upon which the whole relationship is built. I learned this the hard way. And always from here on in…the sexual rapport we have is crutial to the rest of it. Blah sex or bad sex and I will invest NOTHING into the relationship 'cuz it's dead in the water and can only get worse. You're either turned on by each other or you're not. Therapy won't help.

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  • September 2, 2019 at 7:52 am
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    After I got married she just was not in the mood NEVER, she is beautiful, funny, hard worker, etc but after many rejections I just lost interest, I got tired of asking for sex. I have not been unfaithful but man! Watching hot women is very very hard and my imagination starts to fly

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  • September 2, 2019 at 11:20 pm
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    Fuck it man, just stay single.

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  • September 4, 2019 at 12:18 am
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    This is what I dealt with for 3 years, it made me feel horrible and even do something I never thought I was capable of, luckily I found out she never loved me anyway and just used me for my money, and THERE it is!

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  • September 4, 2019 at 8:05 am
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    Its nice to see so many people in the same boat and it makes me sad at the same time.

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  • September 5, 2019 at 1:17 am
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    I guess my wife just doesn’t find me attractive, period.

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  • September 5, 2019 at 9:36 am
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    Sometimes the relationship itself just isn’t compatible. Sorry if that’s cold 🥶 😔

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  • September 6, 2019 at 8:26 pm
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    I think sex is over rated, it's communication, companionship, friendship and affection that are important in a relationship not body slapping.

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  • September 7, 2019 at 5:54 am
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    Its funny how people say Sex is “super important” when it really isn’t emotional connection brings outs more physicall connections lack of emotional connection wont lead to any progression of the sort

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  • September 7, 2019 at 12:25 pm
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    Women are the ones to blame. If the man doesn't want sex it means A) he doesn't find you attractive, so it's your fault or B) his libido is low so he physically cannot get an erection and have sex. On the other hand, when women refuse to have sex, it's nothing else but selfishness. All they have to do is spread their legs for 5 minutes, zero effort. And stop complaining about rape, it's not rape to let your supposed "loved one" bust a nut in you. It's just a chore.

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  • September 7, 2019 at 6:14 pm
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    sex is all ways s disappointment

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  • September 8, 2019 at 5:53 am
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    I can't speak for all men, but I love sex. I love pussy. I will not be in a relationship with a woman who can't or won't satisfy me. Life is too short.

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  • September 9, 2019 at 5:01 pm
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    The accuracy of this entire video is scarily true. Less than 4 times a month though? Ha! Try once every 3 weeks for two and a half years… I feel vindicated by this video to a large extent. Even going away and getting a private chalet together did NOTHING for us. Well, I 'gave' one night and that was that. That was my last straw.

    And no, we're not together any more. I miss her and love her still, but felt so unwanted for a long time no matter how much work I put into exercising. I have since had to work out myself that the reason our intimacy died is because of my temper, which I had for a few reasons, one being the lack of sex, so she didn't feel loved. It was a vicious circle…

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  • September 9, 2019 at 7:04 pm
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    Be with someone with the same libido….when there's the right chemistry every time is like the first time.

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  • September 10, 2019 at 1:56 pm
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    I for one, LOVE the animation.

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  • September 10, 2019 at 2:54 pm
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    Exactly, a little less conversation and a little more action

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  • September 11, 2019 at 8:03 pm
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    I cried my eyes out while watching this film (beautiful animation, lots of empathy and a great voiceover btw!). Two years ago my partner lost interest in me and I’m at the end of my wits now. We had lots of conversations, a few arguments, nothing helps. I tried so many things, lingerie, gadgets, roleplay, hotel dates, perverse games, toys, stories, fantasies – nothing helps. I am a pretty, sporty, smart, funny person with good vibes. I am creative and caring. I always praised him as a lover, as a man, as a professional. We have no kids together so there are no conflicts over chores, upbringing. We spend some time together and some time apart so there is space to start missing each other and not get bored. I have used all my resources and nothing helps. I love this guy. I have no idea what else to do. I feel like a piece of shit.

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  • September 11, 2019 at 9:17 pm
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    Ok but what if both of them dont feel the need for sex with each other, but still they are happy together? What does it mean?

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  • September 12, 2019 at 7:13 pm
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    lol every married mangina

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  • September 13, 2019 at 3:01 am
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    Women use sex as a weapon then are flabbergasted when you bang their hot cousin Becky. Hypothetical, of course.

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  • September 13, 2019 at 6:58 am
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    Strange when you talk about sex and dating like that. Casual sex should be be up front and mutual.
    Likke the song goes How Can We Be Lovers If We Can't Be Friends.
    I thought a real relationship started with companionship and learning about the other person. Likes dislikes common interests abilities and flaws. Accepting those things about the other person and becoming true companions. In that way the absence of sex whether because of illness or old age you will still want the love and companionship from that person.
    Because no matter what the comfort of that person can carry the relationship through anything.

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  • September 13, 2019 at 11:24 am
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    Trust me she's fucking. She's murder not fucking you

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  • September 13, 2019 at 5:05 pm
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    These cartoons are really ugly

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  • September 14, 2019 at 6:49 am
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    "lasting a little longer together"
    Yikes.

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  • September 14, 2019 at 7:48 am
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    just wanted to post somesthing positive here. I have a great girlfriend that i love very very much and i am very vocal about that, and vice versa. We talk very open about sex and its still great after 3 years. We kiss and cuddle a lot. We often talk about the good things that happen to us in life. We praise and recognize the good things we do for each other. We dont get into stupid arguments because nobody needs to be right and we dont need to dominate ourselves. We arent to money focused, were both broke students but soon engineers. We do everything we can to spend as much time together as possible.

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  • September 14, 2019 at 10:46 am
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    As soon as you have to bring it up it forfeits the whole point because it takes the fun out of it and makes it awkward. Then the other person feels like thats all you want. Lol just leave them.

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  • September 15, 2019 at 7:13 am
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    If something I can share, don't have sex with your partner, and be a dick to them the next day. That behavior broke my trust with my partner for awhile. I be completely vulnerable, and the next day he blows up about something, and its taken out on me. So, the sex got less and less, and hes freaking out about it thinking I don't love him when the reality is that he made it very hard. I want to have sex, but my emotional state was damaged. There was one day he did it, and I literally flipped out, nearly tearing everything up around me that was paper. Finally got to him that he should learn emotional control and be more mature if something is bothering him instead of being angry and threatening. It sucks that it had to get to THAT point where I nearly went insane for him to finally understand that his behavior was NOT acceptable.

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  • September 16, 2019 at 5:18 pm
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    I haven’t had sex with my wife for ten years, but I still love her and keep thinking how sad it is for her to be married to someone so physically repulsive 😞

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  • September 17, 2019 at 7:44 am
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    This doesn’t mention anything about menopause and how that effects us. It was like someone just turned off my sex drive switch! I’ve tried every supplement I can find, I’ve gone to two gynecologists & hormone replacement therapy! My Drs have basically said there was nothing out there to help me! Not like the blue pill men have! I used to get flirty with just one cocktail.., now I have to be shitfaced. I can’t even remember the last time I had an orgasm. This all started at 47! It’s been a nightmare and I feel soo guilty!
    Thing is..I know what it feels like to be rejected. My husband went through a bout of depression in our 30’s & was switched off too. It felt terrible to lay there wanting to be with him and knowing he wasn’t into it. A few years later…We were finally on the same page and then fucking menopause!

    Hey scientists!! Invent a pink pill for us ladies!!! Most of us WANT to be intimate with our mates!!

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  • September 17, 2019 at 6:18 pm
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    God, I hate sex. Who cares lol??

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  • September 17, 2019 at 6:55 pm
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    SEX is life with out Sex life empnty ineeded seriouse good loveing relationship meet me i loveu forever 💑💑😍😍❤🌷🌷

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  • September 18, 2019 at 5:47 am
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    Apparently the illustrator has some unrequited feelings for Janice the Lizard from the Muppet Show.

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  • September 18, 2019 at 9:08 pm
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    With my ex husband I never wanted sex bcos he was abusive. There are usually reasons. With my husband now he can get it whenever unless I'm too tired for real.

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  • September 20, 2019 at 2:15 pm
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    Am 23 and my man (boyfriend) is 30………he wants sex so much and I don't want it.I can have it once in a while or once a year and I wouldn't mind,so each time I say no he forces himself on me and appologise afterwards and it's hurting me because that's not the life I want.

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  • September 21, 2019 at 4:47 am
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    If someone doesn't want to have sex accept it period. To do otherwise is selfish and one sided. Most likely the are orgasms too. No wonder you are not having sex!!!

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  • September 23, 2019 at 2:17 am
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    I dont know any married man that is happy.

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  • September 24, 2019 at 4:48 am
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    Poor guy in the thumbnail can't even get some from his c*m sock.

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  • September 24, 2019 at 3:37 pm
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    I tried this, after 3 years we divorced – thank god – that divorce saved my life

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  • September 24, 2019 at 3:50 pm
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    I am in sexless marriage for last eleven years…… My husband blame me for……. I feel unwanted all the time……. Don't know what to do…… Just struggling……. Sometimes it feels dirty to even talk of…….we did have a good relationship for a month….. Then I conceived…. Everything changed since then….. I can't leave him as he is the father of my daughter neither wants to live with him……I just keep myself busy

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  • September 25, 2019 at 8:31 am
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    My girlfriend has been on meds for 1 year and ever since the sex has vanished, we have sometimes but she isn't as into it as she was and tries to avoid it from happening in the first place 🙁 we had a great healthy passionate sex life and then things changed, 2 days ago she decided its best we have a break, cut communication completely to see if it brings it back because we both love each other, now all I can think as I am so sexually rejected is that it must be me and she will find someone else in this time apart, I pictured a family a life a world with this girl, I am absolutely heartbroken, it's the worst feeling being defected by a loved one, I don't wish it on anyone

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  • September 28, 2019 at 10:27 am
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    I want 4 times a day. Hell even once a day. But having sex every 7-9 days is killing me. I am starved to death. And now my marriage is falling apart 🙁

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  • September 30, 2019 at 1:02 pm
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    Um what about aces. People who are Asexual don't have sexual attraction.
    This may cause them not to be interested in sex.

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  • September 30, 2019 at 6:43 pm
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    People who are asexual are fucking stupid

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  • October 1, 2019 at 9:14 am
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    This is no longer valid for asexual people..

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  • October 1, 2019 at 12:39 pm
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    Seeing that graphic 2 minutes in talking about showing symptomatic behaviors like banging dishes around, then zoomed out it's a bazillion dishes feels so deeply personal in every way. Lol

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  • October 2, 2019 at 6:12 pm
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    Haha, men don't get laid as much anymore cause they expect the women to work or go 50/50… well guess what, you do that, and she's gonna get too tired from work to have sex with you. Housewives do a better job, even with kids on top of that of letting their husbands relieve stress testing his reach and her flexibility.

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  • October 4, 2019 at 3:54 pm
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    wasn't that weird enough, the other bed partners have peculiar Head shapes? WTF r u trying to address?

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  • October 4, 2019 at 10:49 pm
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    So basically, "let me use you like a toy whenever I want or we have no relationship." Brilliant

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  • October 9, 2019 at 4:18 am
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    More of the reason to leave….

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  • October 9, 2019 at 7:58 am
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    Managnous relationships are responsible for health problems, lowering a man's confidence, testosterone and self-worth… Why? Because he is only paired with one woman which is completely unnatural in nature

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  • October 9, 2019 at 1:38 pm
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    See what happens…
    This is why people get raped.

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  • October 9, 2019 at 2:33 pm
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    Why is it thought that the other person didnt want to have sex with you?

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  • October 10, 2019 at 4:12 am
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    what I want from sex a discount

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  • October 11, 2019 at 10:12 pm
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    The last four years of my relationship were like this. I was a monster, and it traumatized me so much I couldn’t enjoy sex with my next partner…it became associated with that feeling of rejection. Only being honest will help, guys…take it seriously.

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  • October 16, 2019 at 5:58 pm
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    No no its not you, its me, i feel like this right now and i dont want to, but if u cant understand that i dont even know what to tell you.
    I mean GOD DAMN IT WOMAN undress and fuck till the dawn. after all that ive done to make sure u see that i understand you, you slap me back at my face with this shit?
    Not cool.

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  • October 22, 2019 at 12:54 am
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    Girlfriend literally doesn't want to have sex this is madness, I am about to broke up!!!

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  • October 22, 2019 at 1:04 pm
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    Ita unfair that sex isnt treated as a neccesity such as eating or drinking to survive.. sex is treated as entertainment.. i see it as a neccesity… and its even more unfair when your partener sees your neccesity as something they can pleasure when they want.. and not compromise.. even if im not horny.. if my partner needs sex, ill find a way to pleasure her, because its my responsability

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  • October 22, 2019 at 3:48 pm
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    I think you need to do a video on the emotional starved relationship, where one person puts in no effort for affection but expects sex.

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  • October 23, 2019 at 7:09 am
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    The problem is we fed up having sex with one partner which’s why we want to find someone new , taste something different and dump ex girlfriends letting them forget of us .

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  • October 24, 2019 at 12:53 am
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    To solve this problem find somebody that has the same sex drive as you. And both of you would be happy. The end.

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  • October 25, 2019 at 2:05 am
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    Good example of talk before you get married. If ur highly sexual then talk to ur spouse to see if they're the same. If not why be unhappy with ur future marriage. Drop the rlsp now n find someone else.

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  • October 25, 2019 at 5:00 pm
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    He had given it away already 🎎

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  • October 29, 2019 at 2:00 am
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    after 4years of dating, my boyfriend no longer kiss me, we just living together like siblings..

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  • October 30, 2019 at 7:26 pm
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    Or My medicines cause me to not have a sex drive

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  • November 1, 2019 at 2:33 pm
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    I totally understand my wifes position, makes complete sense.
    Abused at a young age, busy house with teenagers and a toddler. Middle aged, all friends are busy in the mix of family life, and life is freakin exspensive.
    So here we are, maaaaybe once a year maybe. But life is hell, life is pure hell. It is VERY hard to be a married woman, and it is VERY hard to be a married man. So since i know that sex plays 4th fiddle for the vast majority, then i will just get these kids raised as fast as possible, and fade away.

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  • November 3, 2019 at 8:13 am
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    Sex is boring and it’s gross , id rather shred my hands in a shredder

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  • November 4, 2019 at 3:21 am
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    Ladies to hell with your roommates! Life is too short for that

    Go out and get a muff and a nice fucccc

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  • November 5, 2019 at 10:36 am
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    I just ended a relationship because of this.
    She was perfect in every way: so smart, funny, empathetic, and absolutely gorgeous and beautiful both on the inside and outside.
    We were a perfect match, except this. For her, the need of physical intimacy wasn't as important as it was for me.
    I opened up and shared many times how it made me feel when I think we didn't have enough sex with each other, but that just made her feel under pressure and stressed her. So everytime I got the thought, I tried to hide it and push it away, and everytime we cuddled or slept together and it hit me, I had to get away not to get carried away and get into a bad mood.
    It started with typical sexual frustration: easily annoyed and almost looking for things to argue about. Then it started to get emotional. I started questioning myself, got easily jealous, hated the way I am – why I just can't appreciate her, that I have her in my life, that we have a future planned together, and a constant feel of guilt was haunting me. I used to wish I could remove the need I had so I could just be happy and be in love with her.

    Then came the emptiness. I started to feel lonely, and unhappy. It was this point I started to realize how much the abstinence was tearing me down. The thought and feeling of us not being connected anymore, and that the passion and love making is gone just made it worse. That it's starting to bring out more bad in me than good. All this happened during a year.

    Only 2 days has passed now, and I'm in a dark hole in hell. I miss her more than anything, and the love and feelings I have for her are so strong and real it's killing me.

    All this because of lack of sex.

    Everything was perfect. But then this tiny need slowly fucked it all up.

    I'm sorry. This was a very personal share with no discussion or thoughts on the video, but I don't have anyone to talk to right now or to purely let it all out to, and I needed to share this somewhere with someone.

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  • November 6, 2019 at 12:28 pm
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    This is very well put together – excellently done.

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